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9 Quality Pinterest Group Boards for Motivated Midlifers

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Midlifers really like Pinterest.  In fact, according to Ignite Social Media, 53% of Pinterest users fall between thirty-five and fifty-four years of age.  What’s more, 80% of all users are women.  So, it’s safe to say female midlifers are big fans of this social media platform.

However, Pinterest isn’t exactly social.  As a user, you will find little opportunity for networking, friending, or chit-chatting in general.  Instead, think of Pinterest as a search engine like Google.  That being said, you can make comments on pins, follow specific people or businesses, and join group boards.  People typically join Pinterest group boards to promote their business products or blogs.  Additionally, you can participate in other types of group boards based on your hobbies and interests.

What Are Pinterest Group Boards

A group board is substantially the same as any other Pinterest board. The only difference is that many people (members) contribute pins to it rather than just one person.  It’s important to note that you can follow a board without becoming a member.

The creator of the board acts as an admin who can add new members or remove members who don’t follow the rules.  The creator is the first person pictured next to the group’s description.  The description explains what topics are covered and usually gives instructions on how to become a member.

How Can I Find Pinterest Group Boards?

Before I give you my list of group boards for midlifers, let me explain how to find other group boards that pique your interest.  There are a few methods of discovering relevant boards.

  • First, you can go to the Pinterest website and type in a word or phrase you want to search.  People and boards with names containing your searched word or phrase will appear.

  • Second, look at your competitors’ boards to see which group boards they belong to and contribute to frequently.

  • Third, check out your analytics if you have a Pinterest business account.  Look at ‘People You Reach,’ then ‘Interests,’ then ‘Your Followers.’

  • Fourth, search Pin Groupie to find groups and learn vital statistics about each one.  This is my favorite method.  You can search by category, word, phrase, or description.  And it’s free to use.  Woohoo!

Here is a short YouTube video to help you learn to use Pin Groupie:

 

My Favorite Pinterest Group Boards

Happiness at Midlife is the group to check out if you need a mood boost.  Inspirational quotes and topics like romance and mental health are frequently covered.

Skin Care for Women over 40 is a large group dedicated to providing tips, products, and articles to midlifers seeking health and beauty advice.  This active board offers an abundance of DIY recipes for self-care.

Boulevard of Midlife Bloggers is a collection of posts by women who are professional and hobby bloggers over the age of forty-five. The group allows up to two pins submitted each day per member.

Mid Life Stride allows members to pin up to two items a day and asks, like most groups, for reciprocation.  Topics like goals, fashion, health, and empty nest are preferred.

Forty Plus Bloggers Supporting Each Other permits up to three pins per day to be submitted by members. Pins must be of articles and not items or services for sale.  To become a member, you must be a writer who is forty plus and willing to share other members’ content.

Midlife Ladies is brought to you by Kimberly at Fifty Jewels.  This group is comprised of about fifty women who contribute all types of content.  That is, as long as they are of interest to women who follow the group.

Food and Recipes for Over 50s is, of course, a group for pinners focused on preparing and eating food designed to appeal to the fifty plus crowd. Consider joining if you have recipes to contribute or you just need to prepare a tasty meal for dinner.

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Midlife Inspiration is comprised of a small yet mighty group of women focused on embracing and enjoying life after forty.  Pins on this board offer tips on everything from health to love to career.

Vintage Hippies 50+ is Pinterest’s virtual time machine.  Travel back to the sixties and seventies if you’re feeling a bit nostalgic.  Pins are meant to promote vintage hippie culture and lifestyle.

Well, there’s my list of quality Pinterest boards for motivated midlifers.  What do you think of my choices?  Did I leave out your favorite?  Let me know in the comment section below.

Remember, life is better when we lift each other up.

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The Other F Word Director Shines Her Spotlight on Midlife

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Throughout her career as an award-winning filmmaker, writer, and director, Caytha Jentis has focused her attention on stories of interest to moms and women in general.  In her latest project, the popular Amazon series The Other F Word, she shines her spotlight on midlife and the joys and pains that come with it.  While the ‘F’ could stand for the word forty or fifty, it might just as well stand for fun or friendship or fearlessness.

The show humorously addresses the issues near and dear to women over forty who are, as a group, woefully neglected by the entertainment industry.  Caytha’s  main characters attempt to navigate the ever-changing landscape of the middle years with help from well-known actors like Judy Gold, Steve Guttenberg, and others.

I spoke with Caytha Jentis about the series and the difficulties she encountered launching it.  Not surprisingly, she faced an uphill battle getting this project off the ground.  Yet, her grit and determination paid off; to the benefit of fans around the world.

Caytha Jentis
Caytha Jentis

Jen Monks: What was the inspiration behind The Other F Word?

Caytha Jentis: I was looking for the next great story to tell.  My two kids were getting older, and I said, “Wow, this is a really interesting chapter in life.”  Parenting older children or becoming an empty nester wasn’t anything that was being covered episodically at that point.  My children were coming of age, and I felt like I was, in a way, coming of age too.

JM: What reaction did you receive from your industry when you were pitching the show?

CJ: I just want to acknowledge that selling television is hard for everyone.  Even Norman Lear had a tough time selling a show that dealt with older people. I was routinely told my idea was good, but I was pitching a tough demographic.  I didn’t know what that meant at first.  It’s code for, “Your characters are too old.”

The other thing I ran into was a perception that my demographic watches traditional television but they’re not on YouTube, and they’re not using digital content.  It’s a fallacy that we don’t watch or can’t figure out how to stream Amazon.

JM: Why do Hollywood executives avoid series aimed at women over forty?

CJ: I had this profound realization that, in this industry, you are either prey or you’re put out to pasture.  There is a little space for women like Sarah Jessica Parker or Reese Witherspoon who have broken through.

I don’t think it’s all entertainment’s fault, per se, but it’s just this larger thing.  Advertisers don’t want their sexy Lexus next to a commercial about Depends.  Besides, advertisers don’t think they need to court us.  They think we will just buy regardless.

“In this industry, you are either prey or you’re put out to pasture.”

JM: Has it been difficult to find sponsors for your show?

CJ: No, but some brands stay away from my type of material.  My characters sometimes swear and talk about sex toys.  I want to tell my stories fearlessly.  Many companies don’t respond to that.

JM: What kind of reception have you received from your audience?

CJ: I’ve been overwhelmed by it.  The success has been huge.  We have been able to reach nearly a million people.  And you have to go directly to Amazon to watch the show, so it’s amazing to me.  With a minimal marketing budget, we have been able to grab so many people.

I feel like our success is a success for all women in this pivoting and reinvention phase.  If I can persevere with this impossible dream, then maybe I can inspire others.

JM: What type of show is The Other F Word and what topics do you cover?

CJ: I wouldn’t call it a comedy.  It’s humorous, but it’s totally driven by drama.  There are so many relevant themes going on.  The four main characters deal with death and parenting and separation and health.  It’s about change and transition.

JM: How has creating this show affected you?

CJ: I used to write to run away from my life.  Then I began to look into my own world and experiences for material.

I have been so profoundly changed by the people I have met.  It’s been a great place to be positive and open a dialogue.  And many of the themes we cover are universal.  All generations can connect with our stories.

JM: What advice would you give people who want to reinvent their career?

CJ: Do your homework.  You need to have passion and fearlessness.  Don’t be afraid to cry and get up and go for it again.  It’s now or never.

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JM: You recently released season two of the series.  How can we ensure there will be a season three, four, and five?

CJ: My simple ask is to watch the show and if you like it, share it with your friends.  There’s nothing else out there like it.

Things are beginning to change for our demographic and women are all a part of that.  Hopefully, if we keep driving these big numbers, we can’t continue to be ignored.

JM:  Thank you, Caytha.  I hope you’re right.

 

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Trailblazing Sitcom Writer Talks Sex, Career, and Stars

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Pioneering sitcom writer, Susan Silver, thrived climbing over obstacles and breaking down barriers throughout her life.  Her often glamorous career began in the sixties when professional opportunities for women were limited to those of secretary or telephone operator.  However, with luck and tenacity, Susan landed the job of casting director for Rowan & Martin’s Laugh-In.

Doggedly, in the Mad Men-esque environment of Hollywood, Susan eventually became a writer for the iconic shows The Partridge Family, Maude, The Mary Tyler Moore Show, The Bob Newhart Show, and others.

Within her memoir, Hot Pants in Hollywood – Sex, Secrets & Sitcoms, Susan recounts the fascinating, star-studded ups and downs of her life.  As a seasoned writer, she grabs your attention by opening her book with an amusing ‘vibrator girl’ story.  She goes on to name A-list celebrities whom she turned down and even describes a frightening encounter she had with a young Bill Cosby.

I recently interviewed Susan Silver about her intriguing professional and personal experiences and her tell-all book.

Jen Monks:  One of your first big breaks came when you were hired as casting director on Laugh-In.  Were you intimidated by the famous people you were supposed to recruit for the show?

Susan Silver:  No.  I don’t understand why, but nobody intimidated me.  I guess I was just too young to know any better.  And I could spot a star a million miles away.  If I saw somebody famous, I would run after them.  I even did that on my honeymoon.

JM:  When you failed to book a well-known entertainer, your boss intimated you should have offered the actor an inappropriate favor.  How did you handle this request at the time?

SS:  Sadly, that’s just the way it was back then.  I decided not to play into it.  You had to ignore it or laugh at it.  I thought he was joking and said, “No way!”  Then I walked out of his office.

In retrospect, it was kind of disgusting, but at the time I probably went home and complained to my husband.  Then I moved on.

JM:  How did such a young, inexperienced person find work on the most successful sitcoms of the seventies?

SS:  Garry Marshall, Penny Marshall’s (Laverne & Shirley) brother, was my mentor and manager.  He was a great guy and a dear friend.

I saw The Mary Tyler Moore Show and told him I wanted to work for them, and he got me on board.  They wanted women writers on that show which was unheard of in those days.  I loved that experience.  It was the best job with the best people.  Everyone worked well together and got along.

sitcom writer Susan Silver

JM:  Over the years you turned down dates with big-name celebrities, and lucrative job offers on Love Boat, Wonder Woman, and the second Newhart series.  Any regrets?

SS:  You have to read my book to find out.  I do wish I had said yes to Steve McQueen.  I turned him down first; then he turned me down.  It just didn’t work out.

As for the shows, it wasn’t the lifestyle I wanted.  There were going to be too many hours involved.  I wanted more freedom.  I like to work when I want to, not when I have to.

JM:  After a frustrating experience writing for the Sarah Jessica Parker series, Square Pegs, you changed careers and worked for the Anti-Defamation League, the United Nations, and the Democratic party.  Why the shift from comedy to serious causes?

SS:  After twenty years of writing, we had a Writers Guild strike in 1989.  By then I was divorced and didn’t want to live in L.A. anymore.  I visited New York and decided I wanted to live there.

I networked and came to the realization I needed to return to my Jewish heritage of which I knew nothing.  I ended up booking speakers for the Anti-Defamation League for two years.

Then I worked with the U.N., and that was a difficult job for me for many reasons.  So, I became interested in politics.

JM:  You had a professional relationship with Bill Clinton and other influential people throughout your career.  How have you connected with so many powerful individuals?

SS:  I get invited to events. Friends take me to parties in New York City, where I live.  I always know or figure out exactly where to stand at an event to meet the most interesting people.

I’ve met almost every icon of my generation.  It’s a matter of being in the right place at the right time and being friendly.  I have been accused of being pushy.  I never considered myself pushy: I thought of myself as open to new experiences.

JM:  You eventually turned your attention back to writing and penned editorials for The New York Times and had a long-running column called The Search for Mr. Adequate. Tell us about that.

SS:  I wrote the column for The New York Social Diary.  It was a little like Sex and the City for the baby boomer generation.

The premise is there is no perfect man, and after thirty-five there is no prince, and after fifty there absolutely isn’t.

It was a fun thing to do for four years.  I joined all the dating sites, and that was a nightmare.  But, overall, it was fun.  Just like most of the projects I have been involved in throughout my life.

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Susan has gone on to teach comedy writing and currently hosts short radio commentaries on Robinhood Radio.  She continues to embrace projects that spark her creativity and claims she will never retire completely.

Although the veteran sitcom writer admits she didn’t realize the social significance of Maude and The Mary Tyler Moore Show at the time, Susan Silver is proud of her contributions to them.  She should be.

What was your favorite sitcom of the seventies or eighties?  Feel free to share it in the comments section below.

Life is better when we lift each other up.

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Midlifers and Boomers; 20+ Best Facebook Pages for You

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On the heels of my first post in a series of resources for Midlifers and Boomers, I’ve composed a list of targeted Facebook pages for the woman over forty.  They range from well-known, popular pages to obscure, smaller ones. As long as each is useful or entertaining, that’s all that matters.

The topics covered vary widely as well.  From pressing health matters to funny memes, you’ll get a little bit of everything with this list.  Consider it a Facebook buffet.  Are you ready to eat up?

 

Humor and Inspiration

  • Rocking Over 40 encourages you to be bold and own your age while striving for personal and professional success.  Very empowering messages found here!

  • Amazing Women 50 and Better is a blend of positivity and humor.  Stop by when you need a little ‘pick-me-up.’

  • Purple Clover has a sarcastic and clever vibe.  I simply couldn’t leave this popular page off the list.

  • Midlife Mayhem is interactive and entertaining.  Join in and answer questions or laugh at pictures and memes.

  • Life Starts After 50 inspires and helps you feel better about getting older with themed days like ‘motivation Monday’ and ‘feel good Friday.’

  • Aging Abundantly shares uplifting cultural stories and thought-provoking ideas about midlife and beyond.

  • Sad But True Life of a Middle Aged Woman is, you guessed it, funny with a dash of unfiltered attitude for flavor.

  • Women After 50 boasts well over one million followers for two reasons; it is witty and covers all the topics close to our hearts.

Parenting, Grandparenting, and Family Life

  • Grown and Flown gives parenting advice and support to those with older teens and young adults.  An empty nest doesn’t mean your worries stop.

  • The Midlife Mamas shares the most interesting family-oriented posts on the web.  I can quickly get sucked into the feed on this page if I’m not careful.

  • Daily Caring gives practical tips and advice to those caring for a parent, spouse or sibling.  Such a good resource!

  • Fabulous Grandma is the page you follow the second you find out you’re gonna have a grandchild.  This is THE feel-good place for grandmothers!

Travel and Leisure

  • My Itchy Travel Feet is for boomers who have wanderlust and long to find inspiration through adventures.

  • Mid-life Cruising! shares the experiences of a couple as they live their lives sailing the Caribbean.  Bon voyage!

  • AARP Travel Center is a partnership between AARP and Expedia that offers member discounts on travel to locales all over the world.

Money, Business, and Career

  • iRelaunch educates and supports professionals attempting to return to work after a career break.

  • Boomer Benefits empowers those new to Medicare and unsure of what it covers.  Use it as a resource to compare benefits and prices.

  • Life Wise Lady is my page (not so subtle #humblebrag).  I help women over forty create and grow successful businesses of their own.

Related reading: 25 Fantastic Facebook GROUPS for Midlifers and Boomers

Health, Wellness, and Food

This is a mere sampling of the many wonderful Facebook pages dedicated to midlifers and boomers.  You can find hundreds, if not thousands, of others to follow.  As a matter of fact, if you would like to share your favorites, mention them in the comments section below.

Life is better when we lift each other up.

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25 Fantastic Facebook Groups for Midlifers and Boomers

Fantastic Facebook Groups for Midlifers and Boomers

To whom do you turn for support and resources as a woman over forty?  Do you confide in family members, neighbors, co-workers, or high school friends? Perhaps the answer is no one.

As midlifers, we experience daily challenges particular to our situations and ages. The sandwich generation, as we are sometimes called, is pulled in multiple directions as we caretake our parents and children, our jobs and romances, our changing bodies and plummeting hormones.  We yearn for emotional support and comradery to maintain a sense of balance and clarity.

Thankfully, with the rise of social media, we no longer rely on proximity to establish connections to people with whom we can relate.  Facebook groups is a prime example of a tool that can help us find quality connections.  According to Pew Research Center, only eighteen percent of Facebook users are women ages forty-five to sixty-four.  However, there is no shortage of groups dedicated to midlifers and boomers.  In fact, the task of narrowing down hundreds or thousands of social groups is daunting.

But fear not my friend.  I have narrowed the choices by eliminating groups of less than two hundred people and those that allow men to join.  Sorry, fellas!  My list of 25 fantastic Facebook groups for midlifers and boomers is for women only.  Of course, the exceptions are groups created for singles and finding romance.

 Update: I have added a few groups to this post and started my own FB group.  It is a community of businesswomen and bloggers over forty who want to share their wisdom, products, and services with each other.  Join Life Wise Lady!

Support of All Sort

  • The Latte Lounge (Top Tips 4 Women Over 40!) This “virtual coffee shop for all women over 40, 50, and BEYOND” is a delightful forum to contribute interesting articles, health recommendations, advice, and news.  It was formerly called Top Tips 4 Women Over 40. 

  • Over 40, Fearless & Free (Women’s Group) is a safe place to share inspiring books, tips, and delicious recipes.  There is a maximum of six posts per day to keep down the number of notifications you receive.

  • Fab Women Over 50 is where to go to chat about issues important to you at this stage of life.  It’s an active community of positive, like-minded women who encourage and engage each other frequently.

  • 40+ Women Divorce Support Group is dedicated to helping those who are separated, divorced, or widowed.  You may ask questions or offer guidance to make the most out of one of life’s most stressful situations.

  • Rocking Midlife – Join the crowd and connect with fantastic ladies from around the world.  You can indulge in humorous videos and memes or seek comfort and counsel.

  • Women Over 50 ROCK was established to empower women with themed days like ‘Monday Motivation’ and ‘Tuesday Tips.’ While the group is mainly one of support, you are allowed to promote your Facebook page or a product/service on Fridays.

  • Forever Fierce: The Midlife Revolution – The name says it all.  This collaborative community was founded to “shift the perception of women at midlife and beyond.”  Although this group emphasizes style and fashion, various topics are welcome for discussion.

  • My Side of 50 covers issues like health, retirement, food, fashion, travel, grandchildren, and aging parents.  It’s a one stop shop for midlifers and boomers who want to establish virtual friendships.

  • The Flock (of TheMuttonClub.com) – Meet, chat up, and laugh with feisty, outspoken ladies here.  Topics vary and there are no holds barred.  You may also promote your business page on Fridays.

 

Parenting

  • Midlife Moms is for women who have babies or toddlers a little later than most.  I am not a member, but I imagine the talk and advice revolve largely around parenting small children and the struggles of midlife motherhood.

  • Having Babies Over 40 (Women Only) – If you are planning to get pregnant or are pregnant or recently gave birth, then you will be welcome here.  It’s a supportive, friendly crowd of “kindred spirits ready to welcome you.”

  • Moms with College Kids – When the hatchlings fly off, you may need tips on how to handle this transition or how to accept your empty nest.  Members also discuss college admissions, internships, and surviving ‘adult children.’

 

Health, Fitness, and Wellness

  • Day Off Diet Support for Women Over 50 assists midlifers in their struggle with weight loss.  Everyone benefits from the tips, strategies, stories, and recipes shared amongst members.

  • Peri / Menopause Support Group gives direction to those in the beginning stages of menopause or those who have been experiencing this transition for years.

  • ForeverHer – This group focuses on wellness and exercise trends for ladies who are thirty-five plus.  Members offer tips, encouragement, and reviews to inspire you to stay fabulously fit.

 

Relationships, Dating, and Romance

  • The Original- Over 40 Single Mingle is a “make friends and see what happens” kind of crowd.  You are encouraged to share pictures, discuss events, and arrange meetups.

  • For Over 50 Senior Singles Dating is similar to the group above.  However, the admins strictly forbid anyone under fifty from joining.

  • World Wide Senior Dating and Romance – Don’t let the name of this club discourage you from joining if you are a midlifer.  Singles forty and up are accepted if they have a Facebook profile with a picture of themselves.

 

Style, Beauty, and Fashion

  • Beauty Q&A..Insider Tips – This is a U.K. only group for women to share, ask about, and learn beauty tips.  They frequently discuss trends and which products and services they prefer and why.

  • Ageism is Never in Style – Don’t you just love the name?  The group was created for women who feel ignored by the fashion industry simply because of their ages.  Feel free to contribute style tips, blog posts, and inspiring stories.

  • Mamas Over 40 Who Love Makeup, Fitness and Fashion! –  This bunch of gals is, of course, into chatting about style, clothes, makeup, and fitness.  They share the latest trends and discuss releases and give reviews.

  • Style Your Way to Success Over Fifty was created by a midlife image stylist. Interact with this empowering tribe by giving advice, asking questions, or posting pictures of your confidence boosting outfits.

  • Silver Foxy is all about women (and the occasional man) who want to maintain natural, silver hair.  Contribute tutorials, tips, videos, and pictures of yourself and your lovely locks.

Related Reading – Midlife Reinvention; Is it Time for a Professional Pivot?

For Writers and Business Owners

 

I sincerely hope you discovered a few groups that piqued your interest on this list. After all, we need to vent and share our successes and frustrations occasionally. Do you remember the intro to the show Cheers?  “Sometimes you want to go where everybody knows your name.”  My apologies if that song gets stuck in your head for a while.

Do you belong to any fantastic Facebook groups for midlifers and boomers?  If so, don’t keep it a secret.  Please share the names so we can all join.

Life is better when we lift each other up.

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7 Epic Ways I Knocked Out 40k in Credit Card Debt Quickly

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There are few things in life more spirit crushing than significant financial debt.  The constant fear of family and coworkers discovering your shameful secret taxes your energy.  Not to mention the hopelessness you feel as your situation spins out of control with outrageous interest payments and additional fees.  Then there is the dread of opening your statements every single month.

I know this with certainty because I experienced it in my twenties just as many of my friends did.  But rather than running up my own bills, I had unknowingly married into 40k in credit card debt.  Ouch!  And rather than bail on the new marriage, in spite of the King Kong sized red flag, I chose to stay and help my future ex-husband pay off this enormous liability.  What can I say?  Love is blind.  You can read more about my personal story here.

Admittedly, this is an unusual way to fall into a money pit.  However, whether it’s from reckless spending or a medical situation or a divorce, debt is debt.  It is the thief of dreams and opportunities, and I loathe it.  So we formulated a plan to knock out this balance within two years.  As ridiculously lofty as that goal sounds, keep in mind that forty thousand dollars back then is about sixty-three thousand today.  Now we’re talking crazy ambitious, right?

Given our household income was approximately sixty thousand dollars per year, we knew the cuts in expenses would be drastic and uncomfortable.  Even so, we pressed forward and managed to wipe out our obligations in twenty-four months.  Do you want to know how?  Let’s cover the seven ways I knocked out 40k in credit card debt quickly.

 

1. Food and Drinks

For the sake of being thorough, I will include a few ‘no-brainers’ within my list.

  • Buy and cook in bulk.  Then freeze leftovers for future meals.

  • Pack a lunch every day.  I splurged and went out once a month.

  • Carry snacks and a water bottle in your purse to sidestep the store.

  • Avoid restaurants & coffee shops.  Go out to dinner once a month.

  • Clip coupons or use sites like coupons.com

2. Shopping

  • Regift presents you don’t use.  I know it stinks.  Do it anyway.

  • Use mail-in rebates.  They are time-consuming but worth it.

  • Apply to reward programs from every chain that offers them.  It adds up.

  • Browse garage sales and thrift stores instead of buying new.

  • Don’t take kids/grandkids to the market.  Just don’t.

  • Shop on clearance.  You can find sale items on the end caps of aisles.

 

3. Entertainment

  • Eliminate date nights.  Have romantic meals by candlelight at home.

  • Check newspapers & websites for calendars of free events in town.

  • Go camping, on day hikes, or take staycations instead of vacations.

  • Invite friends over for drinks and food instead of going out.

 

4. Slashing Monthly Expenses

  • Stop frequenting hair & nail salons.  I hated this one but did it.

  • Cancel your gym membership or exercise class.  Workout at home.

  • Shop around for the best gas prices. You can use gasbuddy.com

  • Refinance your home and auto loan.

  • Drop your cable provider.  Tell yourself, “It’s a want, not a need.”

  • Bundle your insurance coverage.

  • Temporarily stop contributing to retirement. (It is a personal choice)

**** I did not borrow from my 401(k) ****

 

 

5. Fundraising

  • Have a yard sale.  Borrow someone else’s yard if needed.

  • Take paid surveys.

  • Offer to sell items for friends & family on eBay or Craigslist for a fee.

  • Pawn old jewelry or tools.

 

6. Credit and Banking

  • Use auto bill pay to avoid late fees.

  • Change banks to reduce checking & ATM fees.

  • Use cash or debit cards instead of credit.

  • Transfer high-interest balances to low, introductory rate credit cards.

  • Cut up all but one credit card to use only in an emergency.

 

7. The Difficult Stuff

  • Temporarily quit school.  No sense in digging a deeper hole.

  • Eliminate hobbies like tennis, golf, skiing, & other fun activities. Yuck!

  • Don’t tell others about your debt.  Pity will ensue.  (I know you want to vent)

 

Well, those are the painful methods I used to erase 40k in credit card debt quickly.  Implementing these tactics was frustrating at times, but ultimately successful.  I vividly remember sending off the last installment.  There were tears of joy in my eyes and pride in my heart.  Trust me; it was worth the sacrifices.

Have you ever experienced crushing debt?  If so, do you have any suggestions on how to pay it down rapidly?  Please share your tips in the comment section below.  Life is better when we lift each other up.

 

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25+ Terrific Gen Xer, Midlifer, and Boomer Blogs to Love

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I thoroughly enjoy midlife.  I didn’t think I would at first.  Father Time dragged me kicking and screaming into my forties, but I’ve embraced this experience now.  Everything my mother and grandmothers told me about this chapter in life’s story is true.  They assured me I wouldn’t worry as much about my physical appearance and would put greater value on the time I spend with family and friends.  That is all true.

To be honest, though, there are certain problems and stressors that come with being a woman over forty.  You begin to experience the loss of important people in your life more frequently, you worry about your health and mobility on a regular basis, and you wonder why your value as a career woman seems to diminish as you age.  I used to question if I could find a community of ladies who could help me celebrate and commiserate throughout this interesting journey.

It turns out, there are dozens of female writers who expertly share their lives and advice every week.  Some make me laugh while others simply inspire.  Take a look at these 25+ gen xer, midlifer, and boomer blogs.  Invite them into your life.  You’ll be glad you did.

 

1. Roxanne Jones – Boomer Haiku

Type of blog: humor

Topics covered: retirement, aging, health, sex

My favorite post: If Advertising Told the Truth

 

2. Crystal Arzu – The Middle Years Journey

Type of blog: lifestyle

Topics covered: family, friendship, health, career

My favorite post: Midlife Birthdays are Different

 

3. Elaine Ambrose – Midlife Cabernet

Type of blog:  midlife and humor

Topics covered: friends, family, health, mortality

My favorite post: Handkerchiefs and Smiley Faces

 

4. Debbie Harris – Deb’s World

Type of blog: lifestyle

Topics covered: family, travel, fitness, redundancy

My favorite post: How to Embarrass Your Three Daughters in One Post

 

5. Cathy Lawdanski – My Side of Fifty 

Type of blog: lifestyle

Topics covered: fashion, family, food, health

My favorite post: 5 Tips for an Awesome Multigenerational Family Vacation

 

6. Shelley Merchant – A Woman in Her Prime

Type of blog: lifestyle

Topics covered: beauty, food, love, career, family

My favorite post: Green Chili Chicken Manicotti

 

7. Peggy Reskin – Barefoot Front Runners: Sex, Women, and Power

Type of blog: empowerment

Topics covered: women’s rights, feminism, history, sex

My favorite post: Markers of Feminism – Fathers Today

 

8. Carol Owens – Healthy Empty Nest 

Type of blog: lifestyle

Topics covered: family, fitness, travel, self-improvement

My favorite post: 7 Ways to Boost Self Care When You’re Feeling Down

 

9. Rebecca Olkowski – Baby Boomster 

 Type of blog: lifestyle

Topics covered: travel, food, wellness, entertainment

My favorite post: Are You Taking Life Too Seriously and Missing Fun Opportunities?

 

10. Linda Hobden – Boots, Shoes & Fashion

Type of blog: fashion and lifestyle

Topics covered: clothes, shoes, reviews, interviews

My favorite post: 5 Spring Discoveries

 

11. Vicki Marinker – Lifestyle Maven 

Type of blog: lifestyle

Topics covered: food, fashion, beauty, wisdom, fun

My favorite post: Oh My Aching Bones

 

 

12. Leanne Le Cras – Cresting the Hill          

Type of blog: midlife and lifestyle

Topics covered: family, friends, marriage, introspection

My favorite post: What if I Die Alone With My Cat?

 

 

13. Joan Stommen – Gramcracker Crumbs 

Type of blog: lifestyle

Topics covered: active aging, fitness, travel, family

My favorite post: How We Met; the Importance of Family History

 

 

14. Tamara Grand – Fitknit Chick

Type of blog: fitness and health

Topics covered: exercise, food, mobility, nutrition

My favorite post: Mobility Training for Midlife Exercisers

 

 

15. Sue Loncaric – Sizzling Toward Sixty & Beyond

Type of blog: midlife and lifestyle

Topics covered: health, menopause, travel, recipes

My favorite post: Menopause – Are There Non-Hormone Options?

 

 

16. Diana Frajman – Crone Confidence

Type of blog: lifestyle

Topics covered: wisdom, empowerment, humor

My favorite post: 8 Traits of a Confident Person

 

 

17. Anne Parris – Midlife Boulevard

Type of blog: lifestyle

Topics covered: beauty, family, food, health, travel

My favorite post: 10 Steps to Take as You Face Your Empty Nest

 

 

18. Shari Broder – Weight Loss for Foodies

Type of blog: weight loss

Topics covered: health, food, nutrition, goals

My favorite post: The One Thing You Must Do to Permanently Lose Weight

 

 

19. Carol Cassara – Heart Mind Soul

Type of blog: lifestyle

Topics covered: self-improvement, travel, health, grief

My favorite post: How Can a Guided Journal Help With Grief?

 

 

20. Jen Monks – Life Wise Lady

Type of blog: business ownership and career

Topics covered: entrepreneur, social media, money

My favorite post: 11 Midlife Career Change Ideas That Don’t Suck

Life Wise Lady also has a Facebook Group for business women and bloggers over forty.  We share wisdom and tips while supporting each other’s dreams.  Join here!

 

 

21. Cat McD – Rebloom Room

Type of blog: travel and moving abroad

Topics covered: community, foreign countries, women

My favorite post: Better Together: Why I’m Building a Community for Women

 

22. Valerie Hoff DeCarlo – Valerie Hoff

Type of blog: lifestyle

Topics covered: food, family, travel, fashion

My favorite post: Getting Kids to Eat Vegetables with My Easy Gazpacho Recipe

 

 

23. Patti Stevens – Live Balanced Naturally

Type of blog: healthy lifestyle

Topics covered: balance, ageless living, food, health

My favorite post: Five Ingredient Tea with Amazing Health Benefits

 

 

24. Rebecca Perkins – The Midlife Coach

Type of blog: midlife and coaching

Topics covered: change, self-improvement, wellbeing

My favorite post: What is a Midlife Crisis Anyway?

 

 

25. Joanne Mallon – Opposable Thumbs

Type of blog: lifestyle

Topics covered: beauty, fitness, travel, health, business

My Favorite Post: Tried and Tested – The Best Facial Sunscreens

 

 

26. Sarah Harris – Makes Me Wander

Type of blog: lifestyle

Topics covered: mindfulness, well-being, family, travel

My favorite post: What Now?!

 

 

27. Candace Allan – Text Me, Love Mom

Type of blog: midlife lifestyle

Topics covered: empty nest, grandkids, aging parents

My favorite post: Hey! Stop Spying on Me!

 

Related Reading: Overcoming Shyness After 40; Why Now is the Right Time

I hope you discovered several kindred spirits on my list of 25+ gen xer, midlifer, and boomer blogs.  They will bring you a true sense of joy and community.  If you found value in this post, please share it with the women you know and love.  Life is better when we lift each other up.

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15 Funny Quips and Wittiest Quotes About Motherhood

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Keeping a sense of humor is imperative for mothers.  Well, that and access to a steady supply of fine wine, good chocolate, and a quality bathroom door lock.  Or is that just me?  In any case, when your children or grandchildren are driving you batty, take a deep breath, count to ten, and remind yourself that you are not alone.

There is nothing more challenging than parenting and nothing more rewarding.  Our darlings stress us out, make us cry, cause us to laugh, and bring us joy.  I am comforted that others, more talented than I, have put this profound experience into words.  Enjoy these 15 funny quips and wittiest quotes about motherhood.

1. “The hand that rocks the cradle is usually attached to someone who isn’t getting enough sleep.” – John Fiebig

2. “Working mothers are guinea pigs in a scientific experiment to show that sleep is not necessary to human life.” – Unknown

3. “Mama does everything for the baby, who responds by saying ‘Dada’ first.”
Mignon McLaughlin

4. “I had to get back to work.  NBC has me under contract.  The baby and I only have a verbal agreement.” – Tina Fey

5. “What would men be without women?  Scarce, sir…mighty scarce.” – Mark Twain

 

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6. “No Matter how old a mother is, she watches her middle-aged children for signs of improvement.” – Florida Scott Maxwell

7. “A worried mother does better research than the FBI.” – Unknown

8. “Being a working mom is not easy.  You have to be willing to screw up at every level.” – Jami Gertz

9. “I want my children to have all the things I couldn’t afford.  Then I want to move in with them.” – Phyllis Diller

10. “The phrase ‘working mother’ is redundant.” Jane Sellman

 

11. “If evolution really works, how come mothers only have two hands?” – Milton Berle

12. “I know how to do anything.  I’m a mom.” – Roseanne Barr

13. “When your children are teenagers, it’s important to have a dog so that someone in the house is happy to see you.” – Nora Ephron

14. “Never let your mom brush your hair when she’s mad at your dad.” – Gallagher

15. “If your kids are giving you a headache, follow the directions on the aspirin bottle, especially the part that says ‘keep away from children.'” – Susan Savannah

Related Reading: 17 Powerful Quotes from Pioneering Businesswomen

Do you feel better now?  I hope that brought a smile to your face.  If you liked this list of funny quotes about motherhood, share it with the women you love.  We all deserve a chuckle…and a spa day…and a vacation.  Just saying.

Life is better when we lift each other up.

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How Diversity in the Boardroom is Boosting Employee Morale

When I was a little girl, I knew men made more money than women and almost always held higher positions too.  It was a fact of life.  In my neighborhood, fathers were the main breadwinners while mothers either stayed home or filled the financial gaps with part-time or temporary jobs.  Full-time female workers were few and far between.  Even rarer was the woman who managed to land a management position.  I can count on one hand the females I knew with any legitimate professional power and influence.  I can’t even imagine how small those numbers were for minority women at that time.

As I grew, I noticed a distinct change in the societal norm.  If you’re older than thirty-five, you probably experienced the same dramatic shift.  Moms either needed to or wanted to work.  And with that, ladies began to find role models.  Whether it was Geraldine Ferraro, the first female vice presidential candidate representing a major American political party or famous business icons like Oprah Winfrey and Martha Stewart, girls finally had multiple women to emulate.  In turn, we began to proclaim, “if she can do it, I can do it.”  Anything was possible.

It may seem obvious to you then that boosting employee morale is as easy as placing more women and minorities into influential positions.  Well, you’re not alone.  2020 Women on Boards is a national campaign to increase the percentage of females on U.S. boards to 20% or more by the year 2020.  Malli Gero, co-founder and president says, “research shows that gender diversity is good business and results in higher sales, greater corporate morale, and better return on investment for stakeholders.”  Those are three seemingly compelling reasons for companies to hurry up and get with the program.

Is the Glass Half Full or Half Empty?

Sadly, diversity in the boardroom and upper management remains at what you might call a deplorable level. Globally, women hold between fifteen and eighteen percent of the available director positions, depending on which study or survey you read.  This is partly because turnover on boards is low.  The good news is that the numbers have been growing steadily, if not quickly, over the last decade.

Recent pressures from activists and investors have prompted boards to increase their number of minorities and females.  The alternative is to face backlash and criticism from the media and other powerful groups if these changes are not made.  Perhaps you’ve heard of organizations like the Forte Foundation, the Thirty Percent Coalition, and the Professional Diversity Network that are not only shining a much-needed light on this topic but providing resources to underrepresented professionals in an attempt to speed up the process of parity.

A Reason to Smile

Minorities and women are taking notice of the recent changes in corporate demographics.  Research shows that role models have a positive effect on stigmatized and under-represented populations.  Having someone to look up to in a company setting increases motivations, the number of goals set, and interest in advancement by those in lower positions.  You might not be surprised by any of this, but it’s nice to have evidence for the obvious, right?

Additionally, businesses with relatively high percentages of female managers and board members tend to take on issues important to stigmatized groups.  Corporate programs that spotlight and address equal pay, flexible work schedules, mentorship, and charitable contributions are increasingly popular.  As a result, the future is looking a little brighter for us and will probably continue to do so.

Related Reading: 7 Deadliest Sins of the Struggling Career Woman

Career expectations for women have certainly changed and grown over the past thirty years.  Gone are the days when we put absolute limits on our professional potential.  Big business is likely to continue boosting employee morale with improved representation of marginalized groups in positions of power.  Do you think we are headed in the right direction?  What other actions should corporate America take to ensure equality?  Let me know by leaving a comment below.

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17 Powerful Quotes from Pioneering Businesswomen

Sometimes it requires great effort to stay motivated in your career.  Experiencing frustration or discouragement is a common occurrence in the lives of most professional women.  The path to success is fraught with obstacles like unconscious bias, sexism, racism, and ageism.  It’s no wonder we feel deflated or defeated from time to time.  It’s at those moments that we need to hear powerful quotes from pioneering businesswomen like:

 

1. Barbara Walters – Journalist, author, and the first female co-anchor of a network evening news show, ABC Evening News

“I was the kind nobody thought could make it.  I had a funny Boston accent.  I couldn’t pronounce my R’s.  I wasn’t a beauty.”

2. Madame Curie – Physicist, chemist, and first woman to win a Nobel Prize

“I have frequently been questioned, especially by women, of how I could reconcile family life with a scientific career.  Well, it has not been easy.”

3. Joan Rivers – Comedienne and first woman to host a late-night television network talk show, The Late Show with Joan Rivers

“I succeeded by saying what everyone else was thinking.”

4. Annie Oakley – Sharpshooter and renowned international star

“Keep on aiming and keep on shooting for only practice will make you perfect.  Finally, you’ll hit the bull’s-eye of success.”

5. Ursula Burns – First black-American woman CEO of a Fortune 500 company, Xerox

“I’m an advocate for change and eager to break a little glass when needed.”

 

6. Agatha Christie – Author and Guinness World Records holder as best-selling novelist of all time

“As life goes on, it becomes tiring to keep up the character you invented for yourself, and so you relapse into individuality and become more like yourself every day.”

 7. Jennifer Lopez – Actress, singer, and first woman to have the number one film and album in the same week

“Things don’t always turn out exactly the way you want them to be and you feel disappointed.  You are not always going to be the winner.  That’s when you have to stop and figure out why things happened the way they did and what you can do to change them.”

8. Lucille Ball – Comedic actress and first woman to run a major television studio, Desilu Productions

“I’m not funny.  What I am is brave.”

 9. Indra Nooyi – CEO of PepsiCo and consistently ranked as one of the most powerful women in the world

“At the end of the day, don’t forget you’re a person, don’t forget you’re a mother, don’t forget you’re a wife, don’t forget you’re a daughter.”

 10. Julia Child – Award-winning chef, author, and television personality

“I think you have to decide who your audience is. If you don’t pick your audience, you’re lost because you’re not really talking to anybody.”

Related Reading: Why a Physical Attractiveness Stereotype Crushes Opportunities

11. Vera Wang – Fashion designer and business mogul

“Don’t be afraid to take time to learn.  It’s good to work for other people.  I worked for others for twenty years.  They paid me to learn.”

12. Nellie Bly – Trailblazing investigative journalist

“Accept praise for its worth – politeness.  Be brutally frank with yourself.  It’s safer.”

 13. Aretha Franklin – singer, songwriter, first woman inducted into the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame

“We all require and want respect, man or woman, black or white.”

 14. Mary Kay Ash – Founder of Mary Kay Cosmetics and award-winning businesswoman

“Every achievement, big or small, begins in your mind.”

 15. Sara Blakely – Founder of Spanx and billionaire businesswoman

“I think my story says that, when women are given the chance and the opportunity, that we can achieve a lot. We deliver.”

16. Amelia Earhart – Aviation pioneer, author, and first female to fly solo across the Atlantic Ocean

“The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity.”

 

 17. Estee Lauder – Co-founder of Estee Lauder Companies and the only woman on Time magazine’s 1998 list of the 20 most influential business geniuses of the 20th century

“When I thought I couldn’t go on, I forced myself to keep going.  My success is based on persistence, not luck.”

 

So, did you think those were powerful quotes?  Do you feel empowered?  If not, tell me what words of wisdom or iconic women inspire you and keep you moving forward in your career.

Life is better when we lift each other up.